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Post by Timur Mun on Oct 27, 2019 20:09:28 GMT -8
Timur internalized his sister's suggestion, choosing to eat some of his food rather than respond. He knew he had heard about there being positive changes in Kazakhstan, but it was hard to not forget the things he witnessed in his childhood. He was a bit surprised Inkar mentioned possibly visiting the country for track things, but he figured it was something he could ask later. He took the ear bud and listened to the song. "This is nice, I like this." He said as the song seemed to be coming to an end, a smile on his face. "I do listen to QPop some, but I had not come across that song." He glanced at the screen again to catch the name before taking a mental note of the band name. "I will have to remember them."
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Post by Inkar Mun on Oct 29, 2019 0:59:26 GMT -8
A slightly cunning look came onto Inkar's face, and she said, "You know, Mom sometimes listens to this sort of stuff. I hadn't shared that one with her because I'd not had a good moment, but I'd been thinking about it because I think that it might be good for her to see. But you know, if you wanted to be the one to pass it her way instead, maybe test those waters a little bit yourself, I'd be happy to let you do it instead."
It was strange starting to see her parents as people instead of just parents, but her mom had been doing a remarkably good job of listening to what she had to say recently. She knew that it was probably different for Timur, but she hoped that his interactions with their parents were able to be at least OK.
She was curious now though, and asked, somewhat tentative, "You don't have to answer if you don't want to, but it's cool to know that there's another not straight kid in the family. Have you ever dated?"
It was something that she worried about, with all the mess that was their family. It wasn't like the family wasn't loving, it was. Their parents so clearly cared about them, but there were just so many younger siblings, and then her age gap with Timur was so big. She wondered how he'd handled it. Obviously he hadn't brought anyone home, which made sense, but there was the whole idea of even sharing that with someone who didn't already know.
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Post by Timur Mun on Nov 18, 2019 14:41:15 GMT -8
Timur thought a moment before smiling, "Sure, I'd like to have that chance."
He hesitated a moment before nodding, "In college, I did. We were steady for the whole four years, but after graduation we mutually broke up, because he went to Maine after receiving a job opportunity, and I wasn't ready to even move out of our parent's place yet. Plus, even though we ended up pretty serious, I don't think he would have been 'the one,' you know?" It was weird to admit, as he'd never told anyone besides their mutual college friends. He added, quieter, "He was also not happy that I was closeted the entire time. He came from a very open, modern family and so he said he understood why I didn't come out, but it was obvious it bothered him."
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Post by Inkar Mun on Nov 19, 2019 21:50:03 GMT -8
Inkar smiled listening to Timur talk about it, and she said, "It's nice to know in a way that you didn't date someone for the first time until college. I sometimes feel a little bit behind on that front when I know that I have friends who have been dating for literal years at this point."
She sighed and said, "I'm kind of glad that I didn't try to date while completely in the closet though, that sounds like it would be stressful for everyone."
She slightly teasingly asked, "Have you had anyone you were into since then? Any cute neighbors or something? That sounds like something that real adults would have. That's been a while?"
Inkar had certainly had her fair share of crushes, though none of them to date had been ones that she really wanted to try to go anywhere with, and at least half of them had been more aspirational crushes than actual crushes. She sighed and said, "Who know's maybe I'll find a girlfriend once I'm in college, that seems like an easier time to date while queer."
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Post by Timur Mun on Dec 2, 2019 22:27:41 GMT -8
Timur gave his sister a half-hearted smile. "It's hard not to do, but the sooner you can stop comparing yourself to your peers, the better off you'll be." He assured her. It took him a long time to learn that, and back in high school he beat himself up a lot over the relationships his peers had, with each other, their siblings, and their parents, when comparing it to himself. He chuckled before adding, "And yeah, it's is definitely stressful for everyone." He realized then Inkar had actually seen his ex boyfriend, as he had come over and even stayed through dinner a few times, under the half-guise of them being study partners (it was true, they were just also partner-partners). "You may even remember him," He began, not knowing how much his siblings paid him any attention growing up, "my ex-boyfriend. He came over to study once or twice, mainly because we couldn't go to his house for one reason or another. Ben, had kinda dark blonde hair. Had dinner with the family a couple times." He tried. He honestly couldn't remember if Inkar had even been at home for those particular dinners, so he wouldn't hold it against her or anything if she didn't remember or know.
He laughed at Inkar's mention of crushes real adults would have, but it was stopped short as he remembered he did have a cute neighbor. "Um, not really? I mean, kinda?" He eventually gave up and let out a sigh, "Yes, I do happen to have a cute neighbor but you know most adults these days either meet online or like, through work or work friends or regular friends."
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Post by Inkar Mun on Dec 23, 2019 23:54:06 GMT -8
Inkar laughed a little bit and said, "I get that. It's not so much comparing myself to them honestly as wanting a similar but my own experience of some of it. And the whole feeling rather left out when couples who have been together for a while appear to develop telepathy."
Inkar thought about the description for a while and said, "I vaguely remember him. Very vaguely. I mostly remember mom being exultant over you having a friend."
Inkar grinned at him impishly and asked, "So do you know your cute neighbor's name? Is he about your age? Just because most people do something some way doesn't mean any particular person has to. Didn't you tell me just now to stop comparing myself to my peers?"
She stuck her tongue out at him, fully aware that she was being a bratty younger sibling just for a moment, but the relief of realizing that there was at least one sibling who got the whole not being straight, but also having a giant family and just not wanting to have all that attention on it, was nice. If Timur got annoyed or seemed actually uncomfortable about it, she'd let it drop.
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Post by Timur Mun on Mar 25, 2020 19:15:51 GMT -8
Timur nodded, "I can understand that. You witness experiences people consider "normal" and crave the same, even if you're fine where you're at now."
He laughed, "Yeah, she was. That was the first person I'd ever brought home with me, and it didn't happen until college." He pondered for a moment how his mom would have reacted to them studying (and a little bit of "studying") with the door to his room closed had she known they were dating. Probably would have made them study in the living room. The thought made him chuckle, but also made him a bit wistful he could have experienced it - a "normal" relationship moment. "Hmm, yeah. I see what you mean about those feelings developing unwillingly." He told his sister, nodding.
"I do not, in fact, know his name. His mailbox says his last name is probably Wen, I think. Not that I look at that sort of thing..." He paused, "Oh wait. I got his mail once by accident. I think his name was like... Allen? Allen Wen? That's all I know. He seems like he might be about my age, but I'm not sure. And I did, but that was different." He said the last part quickly, seeming slightly flustered and jumbled in his thoughts. He punctuated his words with a reciprocated stuck out tongue.
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Post by Inkar Mun on May 21, 2020 22:26:59 GMT -8
Inkar giggled at her brother sticking his tongue out at her in return and busied herself with finishing up her food for a bit. Eventually, she spoke somewhat earnestly, teasing tone from before gone, "I'm glad we talked about all this today. It's nice knowing. I hope we can keep talking about this kind of stuff."
She was especially glad to be getting to have some of these talks with Timur because Thomas and Kangwan were far away now, and it meant that her slightly older peers who she might have talked about some of this with weren't easily accessible.
She stood and stretched once she'd finished her food, tossing the paper plate in the compost bin, and turned towards Timur, saying, "We don't have to do this today, but I've not gotten to see your new apartment yet. If I'm potentially going to come crash your place to study at some point, do you think that I could maybe just like come visit at least once first? I won't stick around in your hair or anything."
She didn't want to push, but she was curious what Timur's place was like now that he was a grown up living on his own.
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Post by Timur Mun on Jul 15, 2020 10:02:16 GMT -8
Timur smiled, "Me too. It's nice to have a sibling I feel like I can talk to. I mean, I know a lot of that's my fault, but by the time I realized as such, I had siblings twenty years my junior. I glad I didn't totally ruin it with you, at least."
He finished his food soon after Inkar had, getting up and joining her near the trash bins and tossing his plate. He thought a moment before responding. "I mean. It can be today, I'm not busy, really." He offered, giving her a shrug.
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Post by Inkar Mun on Jul 18, 2020 12:53:30 GMT -8
Inkar gave her older brother a smile and said, "I mean, it might help that I wasn't seeking out your approval particularly as a little kid. You were enough older than me, and I still had enough attention from Mom and Dad that you were mostly kind of background noise when I was super little."
She paused for a second, thinking about it, and added, "Honestly, I think that especially now that you've moved out, you'll be OK reconnecting with the younger ones as they get old enough to have their own relationships with people. Aiday you might have the hardest time with honestly. Aibek still really wants to have a cool big brother and he cares what you think, and the even younger ones are so much younger than you that you might as well be more like an uncle, you were already in college or out of it by the time they start remembering. And like, these days, I really get how you must have felt about having so many so much younger siblings."
She smiled again and said, "If it wouldn't be imposing on your space, I'd love to see what it's like to be an independent adult who doesn't live at home in the context of seeing your place."
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Post by Timur Mun on Jan 11, 2021 17:07:16 GMT -8
"That's fair." Timur replied, thinking it over. That was a good way to put it, when he thought about it. "I've been trying to work on my connections with Aiday and Aibek, but as you say, Aibek is more responsive towards my attempts. I don't blame Aiday, but I still hope we can reconnect better at some point.
He smiled and shook his head, putting his hands into his pockets. "You won't be, and I don't mind. It might be a bit messy, but I think it's fairly average as far as 'newly independent adult who doesn't live at home anymore' goes."
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Post by Inkar Mun on Feb 7, 2021 22:26:32 GMT -8
Inkar laughed and said, "Our house hasn't changed that much since you moved out, so it's not like I'm going to be bothered by a bit messy."
She stood up and tossed the packaging she'd gotten her food in, giving her brother another smile.
She told him, "I know that you live in the apartments, but I don't actually know which building. You'll have to show me where it is once we get there. Did you walk over, or did you drive?"
She half hoped that he'd say he walked, since it was a nice day out, but either way, she was getting to see Timur's place and this had been a positive interaction all around. She added, teasing tone back, "Who knows, maybe we'll even run into your cute neighbor."
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Post by Timur Mun on Jul 2, 2021 16:20:06 GMT -8
Timur chuckled a bit, "Fair point."
He nodded, "Yeah, I can show you. I drove over. It is walkable from here, but I wasn't particularly feeling like doing so." He explained, he motioned towards the parking lot. "I parked over there." He said simply, leading his sister to his car. He didn't comment on her last comment, but sped up a bit in hopes she didn't notice him blushing a bit.
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Post by Inkar Mun on Jul 13, 2021 14:35:58 GMT -8
Inkar realized something with fascination as Timur led her over to the car. She said, "I'm not actually sure that I can think of a time where you were the one who drove me somewhere. You've got to have been put on that job sometimes I feel like, since I end up driving the younger kids to things semi regularly, am I just not remembering?"
It almost made sense when she thought about it. She was the oldest of the younger kids. She'd sort of swapped over into walking or biking places herself when she needed to do different things than the younger kids, and Timur had been busy with college during the part of her childhood where maybe it would have made sense to rope him into driving her, but it seemed strange that he would have never been the one to drive her to something, unless maybe he'd actively tried to get out of driving his younger siblings, which she could kind of understand honestly.
She sighed and said, "Honestly, having to end up driving the little ones places is one of the things that makes me want to move out sooner rather than later. I don't enjoy driving very much, and haven't really needed to much for my own sake. At least Aiday can drive now too, though mom doesn't want her driving the super little ones until she gets more experience."
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Post by Timur Mun on Jan 1, 2022 13:01:16 GMT -8
Timur thought for a bit as he unlocked the car and got settled into the driver's seat, waiting for his sister to get in before he spoke. "Not too much to my memory. I spent a lot of time pretending I was focusing on school work - or, y'know, actually focusing on school work - to get out of driving any of the siblings anywhere. I think one time when you were still pretty little, mom made me take you, Aiday, and Aibek to the mall when I wanted to go hang out there because you all needed new school clothes. She also wasn't keen on the idea of letting me go alone to meet friends there, I think. But of course it's fine if the middle schooler takes their kid siblings along?" He shook his head, an amused smile on his face. "Perhaps she was just trying to get me to bond with you guys. I don't know."
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